On the Kai Situation

So someone sent me an e-mail saying “You should chill because no one is mad about in Korea, so that means he didn’t say it”. First, let me just say that I’m mad whether he said it or not because SOMEONE said it and that’s one hundred and one percent not okay. Second, why should it matter to me whether or not Korean people are upset? It’s not their race that is affected by the usage of that word. And especially since they most definitely weren’t concerned, and were actually quite amused, at the the thought of blackface and probably still are. Not to be rude or anything, but if you’re going to try and defend Kai please think about your reason carefully before just sending nonsense my way. Plus, you can just comment whatever you want, I’m not blocking anything…so.

Anyway, peace out.

~Ducky V

EXO’s Kim Jong In Supposedly Says “Fuck you, you n****r”

Well hot diggity damn, I don’t even know where to start. First, let me show you the video. It was the only one I could rip and I got from Tumblr. Note, this particular person is in Kai’s defense.

 

Most of the people I’ve seen have been upset that one; Kai said the n word or two; people are saying that Kai said the n word. However, I happen to be upset either way. Before we get down to that, let’s ponder over the situation at hand. I am going to write this, you could say, article from two different point of views, then I’ll leave my final opinion at the bottom.

 

KAI SAID IT.

Assuming Kai is the culprit of the horrid racial slur, despite the subtitling of the video, I am horribly displeased and disgusted. This means that someone that might not necessarily be my bias  but is still the bias of many others has just completely crumpled and figuratively trashed my image of EXO. Personally I believe all the people who are desperately trying to defend him are only making my view of him worse.

The first excuse is “He’s Korean, he probably doesn’t know what it means. It’s all because of pop culture!!!” Okay well, newsflash is; it’s not so hard to look up something before you say it. Kai was about 15 in that video and I’m sure he would have the common sense to make sure he knows what he’s saying before he says it. I’ve actually had this experience before, the only difference is I was in the 2nd grade. I was upset at my teach and I asked my Hispanic friend how to say “ugly” in  Spanish so I wouldn’t get in trouble, she told me to just say “puta”. Well yeah I did, and guess who got a behavior document and a pop on the mouth with a thick belt when I got home, you guessed right, me. If you didn’t know, that basically means “bitch”. My point is everyone older than 12 should know that they always need to know what is coming out of their mouth to make sure they’re not cursing themselves.

The other excuse is that Kai thought the n word was just another curse word like “fuck”. That. just. makes. it. worse. How dare you try and accessorize a word that victimized, discriminated, oppressed, and tore apart my race. I’d much rather you just lie and say he didn’t know what he was saying to be honest. I think the reason I was hurt the most was the thought that someone anywhere could just whip out that word with a big bright smile on their face without knowing anything about it and all the pain behind it. You know what I mean?

 

KAI DIDN’T SAY IT

After I had cooled off from the initial anger I started to drift into the world of all of the explanations and etcetera etcetera of how it wasn’t Kai and whatever. But, I came across someone’s theory that struck me and I couldn’t help but try and view it from their perspective. Now, we should all be very aware of the beauty standards in Korea. Pale = beauty. Period point blank. Part of the reason I was so upset about this situation is the fact that the EXO members constantly bring up the fact of Tao and Kai’s darker skin tones. It honestly pisses me off and Chan Yeol’s cartoon Instagram post still has me wound up. Anyway, my point is you can’t really tell (because the video is so blurry) who exactly is saying the offensive words. The theory I read is that Kai’s friends are insulting him and decide to throw in the n word because of his tanner complexion. Yes, considering this possibility does cool me down, but it still leaves my heart unsettled.

This means that whoever said it towards Kai knew that it was a hurtful word that is used towards darker (black) people. **Please note that I;m not saying African American because it’s not just American black people who were slaves** That means they feel like it’s okay for them to say that word.

So basically, to me this is a lose/lose situation because whether Kai said it or not, one of those boys thought it was okay for them to say it. I’ll be honest I used to use the word all the time. However, when this happened I realized how upset it made me hearing it come out of the mouthes of people of other races, so why should I use it too? If you’re a black person and you use that word, I really hope you reconsider your vocabulary choice. I mean I still listen to Drake and Nicki Minaj or whatever, but I don’t use the word myself. I guess that doesn’t make it any better but I’m no saint.

Well it’s late and I’m tired so this probably has a bunch of errors. So anyway I’d love to have some other opinions on this. Put me in check if you have to lol. I’ve been gone for a bit, but I’m back now. Hopefully some of you guys missed me~

-Ducky V