Doo Joon and Fat-Shaming

One thing I’ve noticed in my near 4 years of being in the kpop world is that weight seems to be a huge thing in Korea. In my opinion the Korean media shows weight in light that screams “skinny = happy and socially accepted”. In my opinion, this is just plain poisonous. I single-handedly brought my younger cousin into the kpop world. She is very beautiful, but she’s not exactly lean and definitely not Korea skinny. She’s young and very self-conscious. I love kpop, but I can’t help myself but feel bad that I introduced her to it. Right now, all she knows is the music thank god. She doesn’t know all the scandals and just hurtful things behind it.

Anyway, back to what the title says. I might be a little late, but the other day I decided I wanted to look up some Beast variety shows because they were my introduction to kpop and now I’m really starting to feel detached from them. All was fine and dandy until I came upon a certain video. It was a Guerilla Date episode from waaaaay back. At around the 3:35 mark the PD brings up an (and I’m being blunt not rude) overweight lady for Doo Joon to piggyback. Upon seeing the girl Doo Joon turn to the side and sticks out his tongue to the camera mocking her weight.

Yes, she was overweight (she even said it herself), but was it REALLY necessary to embarrass her like that? She came as your fan out in the street at night surrounded by a crowd of other people and this is how you treat her? What kind of idol treats a fan like that? That just angered me so much. I mean yeah sure you’re famous and you have talent or whatever, but would you have any of that fame and recognition if it weren’t for the fans? How dare you sit there and treat your fan, who mind you has come from another country to yours, like some kind of mockery? That’s not even the point that upsets me the most. I can imagine myself in this girl’s position. I’d wait forever and ever for the show to come out with English subtitles so I could see myself and oppa together. I’d be watching it and when the 3:35 mark came up I’d be utterly ashamed and discouraged. How could someone who I spent so much time and effort on treat me like that? Someone who I always hoped and prayed would always be happy and prosperous in life. I never fancied Doo Joon, nor did I dislike him. However, now there’s no hope for him with me. Sure I will support BEAST. But from now on I will always feel a hurt when I see Doo Joon. Call me stupid, I mean it’s a hurt that’s not even mine, but I’m a very emotional person and I can’t help feel super upset for that girl.

And just as I disclaimer; I love kpop. It makes me happy and keeps me going. But it’s definitely not perfect. I’m fine with that, but that doesn’t mean I want to extend it with my loved ones.

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